Thursday, 15 May 2008

My cuz

Today is taking SO long! I'm editing horrible, boring content that seems neverending.

Somebody save me....

Now I'm going to have the damn Smallville song in my head for the rest of the day. Perfect. I guess it's better than the Fruit & Veg City jingle. Not much of a silver lining.

Here's a question I'd like help answering:
When I got married, except for my immediate family and remaining grandparents, none of my family came to the wedding - not my uncles, aunts or cousins. They all had excuses. We've never been particularly close, but that hurt a lot. Now my cousin is getting married to a dude I've never met, and I'm wondering if I should go. I like her and her dad, but I loathe the rest of the family.

I should probably go though, hey? Eish. Don't want to - it means I have to suffer through hours of boredom and them teasing my hubby (which means hours of placating him afterwards) and stretch my budget (what budget?!) to buy an expensive prezzie. Urgh.

Suggestions, anyone? I guess I could always stock up on rescue remedy and herbal tranquilizers beforehand...

15 comments:

sweets said...

difficult one!
i would go, just because...
and buy them two towels at pick and pay for a present, don't spend too much money if you're not into it :) OR take a beautiful envelope and put a nice card inside with R50... then seal it and let it dry, THEN open the envelope roughly with your finger... then they'll think someone stole the money..... MWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH where do i get these ideas from?????

Tamara said...

You're a lunatic! I love it ;-)

Bridget said...

I think you should go.

Shows you are a bigger person.

Just outdress the bride.

The Blonde Blogshell said...

Hmmm... I've always maintained that being the bigger person pays off, but I wonder sometimes if it does....

I reckon that if you're having doubts, a part of you would like to go... maybe you should...bigger person and all!!

Globus said...

if you like her, you should go. it's her day, and you'd be going for her, after all.

alas you can choose your friends but not your family. this is why globus spends most of the year ignoring his blood relations!

Tamara said...

Bridget: Genius!

Blondie: *sigh* Yes, I know you're right.

Globus: You too? We basically only ever see each other around Christmas, if that. suits us all better that way ;-)

AlasMyDear said...

toughie, that.

would you believe i had the same problem during my wedding! on one side of the family, only two (out of nearly 80 people!) showed up!

but i hadn't seen any of them in years, they live in another country, and i barely knew them, so it didn't even hurt. i mean i've never even been to any of their weddings, either.

i have a hard, hard heart!

i guess it depends on how much their ties with your family mean to you. me, i know once my parents pass on, i'll have no links with that side of the family at all. zilch. and i'm ok with that.

but if you treasure any sort of family relations with them, i'd say go :) borrow the dress, and handmake the pressie :) and bribe the hubbie :)

you'll feel real good about yourself after, i promise!

sleepyjane said...

Well. Normally if I feel like I'm obligated to go to a family gathering that I'd rather avoid I ask myself: 'Will they REALLY miss me if I'm not there?!?'. And if I know the answer is 'Probably not', then I don't go. :)

happy snapper said...

I think you should go too, like Bridget said, be the bigger person.

Plus, there's free food! ha ha ha.

Tamara said...

Alas: Mmmm... handmaking the present sounds like a lot of effort. But I figure your suggestion is the way I should go. *sigh*

Sleepyjane: You make a good point. I'd feel guilty though. What is it with women and guilt?

Happy: Yes, gross every-single-thing-we-eat-must-be-coated-with-mayo food, if I know them. But hey, it'll give me good blogging material for the next while if I do go ;-)

elizabeth said...

Dunno. I'd probably go. If for no other reason than for the blogging fun to be had afterwards...

Tamara said...

Elizabeth: Yup, I'm thinking the same thing.

Ashley said...

Okay, I'm going to say something else.

Do you support the marriage? You haven't met the groom, so I'm guessing it's difficult to judge. And you like your cousin, so I suppose she must be mentally stable. But, in your opinion, is she ready for marriage? If you think the time is right and if you are truly happy for her, then go.

I have a wedding coming up that I'm expected to attend. The girl is a very close friend. But I don't support the marriage. This couple fights and ends things almost everyday. And, from what she tells me, he's an abusive prat that beats her down constantly. But how do I tell her that I can't go to the marriage because I think it's a stupid thing for her to do?

So, based on my current scenario, I think your decision should be made on whether you truly believe your cousin should be in a state of wedlock.

And let us know what you decide!!

Tamara said...

Ashley... Is that you, BAT/SNUS Ash?

Hmmm... I see what you're saying. I had the same thing last year. I didn't go to the wedding coz I think the groom's a malicious brainless twit. But they've now been married nearly a year and they're happy. He seems to have grown up and stopped being such a jerk. But I'm still glad I didn't go. I wouldn't trust myself not to object during the service or trip him on the dance floor afterwards. Hehehe... maybe I should've gone. Would've been fun :)

As for my cuz, from all the reports I've heard, this guy's really sweet. Plus, I'm kinda curious to see him!

angel said...

whew... if the "cons" outweigh the "pros" then maybe you shouldn't go.